Jul 23, 2009

Friends Are Like Shoes


I don't know why this analogy came to my mind the other day, but I think friends are like a pair of shoes. They come new and sparkly, shining their personality and ready to be there at your beck and call. You are the same way in return. You appreciate their new and friendly personality, thinking your friendship will never be the same. You cherish the shoes, you took time to save up for the shoes, you appreciate the shoes, and maybe the shoes become a wonderful friend.

But then...the shoes start getting worn out or you have had the shoes for a long time. Either the friendship changes, the shoes grow old, or new and bright shoes come along. Are you going to hold on to your old shoes? I try to the best I can, because sometimes those shoes are my favorite. They are reliable and even though they don't always sparkle and shine, they still are my best shoes. I still love them just the same. I still invest in them to keep them happy and try to be there for them.

However, I have found that other shoes in return may want new sparkly shoes when you hit your low point. They aren't there for you...they vanish all of a sudden, don't stick around when you need advice, clam up and don't tell you what's wrong. Or, they get mad at you over silly things. I don't understand why this happens. Why don't shoes want to stick with other shoes that are true and reliable?

But maybe, just maybe...there a few jems that stick around through thick and thin. They stick with their favorite shoes. These shoes I am proud to call my friends, because even though these shoes may be worn and faded, they are lasting and loyal. They are always there when you need them. You are there for them in return.

Just like shoes, I think friendship is a two way street. You wouldn't go walking around with just one shoe, right? Well, that is why you need both shoes. Both shoes walk together, talk together, and help support each other. This makes sense because if something is wrong with one shoe...then you help get the other shoe fixed.

Otherwise, friendship is difficult. Friendship is hard. And friendship requires work.

Lately I have found that I have a lot of shoes in my life. Shoes that are peppy, happy, down, sad, mad, unloving, selfish, polished, perfectionists, loyal, faithful, you name it. Now...I realize that all friendships last if you make the effort. But sometimes I don't understand that just when you want to polish your shoes...they break off and leave. They don't want to stick around.

All I know is, no matter the mistakes I have made, no matter how hard I try to keep my favorite shoes around, some may not want to stick around in return. I guess I just need to be at peace with that. I guess I need to learn that I can only do my best and the rest is up to those reliable shoes that I once had. I just get tired of finding new shoes when I love my reliable shoes so much. Why do the reliable shoes get up and leave when I have been a faithful friend? I know they may be going through something hard sometimes, but if only they would reach out to a helping hand!

I am thankful for my closest and dearest shoes. I will forever love them, whatever their decisions in life may be and whatever they are going through. I do have a few shoes that love me for who I am and know that I try my hardest to be there for them in return. Like I said, friends are like a pair of shoes. In the end...which shoes will you be there for? Will you forgive? Will you love deeper, trust more, and hope more? I will certainly try even though it is hard when the trust is broken. I hope you will too.

By the way, these shoes can be found here: Diavolina. Kind of expensive if you ask me, but who knows?

Maybe they are worth it.

46 comments :

  1. i like ur post. its great. so true.
    and i loveeeee those shoes.

    i think to me i would replace shoes wtih handbags... bc i dont really have that great of shoes. lol

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  2. sooo true. what a great analogy...and with that i will be the first pair of shoes. vibrant, happy and always there to lift you up ;)

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  3. I seriously love this post! One of my all time favorites! Your analogy is spot on- hitting all of the high and low points in friendships! There are even times when we have to think of giving the shoes away (or ending the friendship) because of all the damage that has been done in the past. Such a touchy and sensitive subject and I am SO glad that you decided to write about! Love ya girlie :) XOXO

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  4. That's the sweetest post ever. I'm impressed with your writing. Friendship can be so difficult and tricky at times, and I know how you feel with it. I've had to take some friends out of my life b/c they were not good people. It's hard when you realize your shoe is just trashy and has broken heel...it just brings you down.

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  5. That is so well put. I wish I had more worn 'shoes'. ;)

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  6. Very, very true words you speak there lady.

    And I am sure I am not the first one to say that I know the feeling. I've been dealing with it recently and it's always good to hear I'm not alone. Just another reason I think you're lovely.

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  7. Love your analogy..., "older shoes" just feel so comfortable, and that is a wonderful thing.

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  8. I love this analogy! I've never thought about it that way! & the shoes are amazingly cute! I'm a sucker for cute/awesome shoes! ;-)

    btw: found your blog through the Novelista Barista :)

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  9. No friends are like Sneakers... you spend too time with one set and not enough with the others they start to stink!

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  10. Oh: this is a great post. And its so true. My oldest 'shoes' are the most reliable. They have been there through thick and thin.

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  11. completely agree with your post. what a different way to look at something, thanks :)

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  12. Great analogy and so true!

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  13. I love this analogy!! It's so true.

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  14. Great analogy. It is so true. it makes me sad because I haven't done very much to keep my shoes nice and clean... This post has made me want to rekindle all my friendships! Thanks for the wake-up call!


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  15. I adore your post! It is so true, I couldn't agree with you more! Although weve never met...I can be a happy pair of shoes that will keep your spirits high when they are done! :) And you don't even have to try me on...:)

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  16. Such a clever analogy!
    All you said is so true. You really write the sweetest posts..You should be writing professionally.
    I think of all the shoes (friends) that have come and gone and the few that still stick around. It is so true it is a two-way street...I didn't take enough care with some friendships and they are gone.
    Live and learn, I know...
    This really got me to think.
    Thank you.

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  17. that's a cool analogy! and totally true :)

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  18. I love this post~ and friends are like so many things. I love how some are sparkly and comfortable, and some hurt us after a while... some are more comfortable to walk with, and some just aren't right.

    Very interesting!

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  19. What a great post...I try to take care of all my "shoes"...and be there for them when they need me :-)

    Oh...and I definitely keep my "old shoes" :-)

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  20. This is such an amazing post! When I read the title I was like WHAT?? how is that possible.. but when you said this "Just like shoes, I think friendship is a two way street. You wouldn't go walking around with just one shoe, right?" everything made perfect sense.

    You're totally right when there's something wrong with one shoe, you really need to go fix the other so that the pair is as good as new.

    Keep up the good work! I might quote you on that... mm basically until I die.. LOL kidding!

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  21. I love that you wrote this! It speaks from the heart and it's so true. I am going through a tough time with one of my close friends and as much as I wish things were different, it feels like we're growing apart and I'm not sure why. At any rate, hopefully things will turn out for the best!

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  22. Wow. What a great analogy. Friends are like shoes. I would have never thought of that. Good read!

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  23. you're adorable, i love this. and i agree.. i may trade in some of my friends for that first pair of shoes... hmm.. hehe just kidding!

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  24. If I were a shoe, I'd love to be that animal print maryjanes. Fabulous!

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  25. Honey, that was a fabulous post, and one that I will be thinking of over and over again.

    Love ya,
    xxx

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  26. great post, your analogy was head on!

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  27. haha...cute analogy!
    and the more we wear them the more comfy & stinky they are... ;)

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  28. AnonymousJuly 23, 2009

    Spot on, dahlin!! Sometimes I neglect some of my "shoes", but this post inspired me to take out that shoe polish and fix them all up again!!

    Cheers!

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  29. I just had to throw away a pair of shoes, but I'm at peace with it. Why wear shoes that hurt when there are so many that fit you just right?

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  30. I forgot to ask you.... Where in Utah are you from? I am in SLC right downtown. It is so nice because everything is in walking distance!

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  31. WOW! What a great analogy! {and what great shoes you picked for viewing!! so great!}

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  32. Darling this post is so well written and to the point, not mention true. I rarely read posts that are long (don't tell anyone), but I read this post not once but twice and I have printed a copy to show it to a certain "friend".
    Thanks so much, and I say keep the reliable ones and let the others simply have a space in your closet, don't go out of your way to keep them shinny, but keep them, they might get reliable with time.
    Duchess xx

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  33. Interesting comparison, honey. :) I especially like the part about walking in one shoe… So very true… Another thing I thought of after reading this post is that I am VERY picky when it comes to buying shoes and I don’t have many friends, but those I have are people I could always count on, so it’s sort of a quality, not quantity for me whether it’s about friendship or shoes…Great post, sweetheart! Have a lovely day! x

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  34. Very well said!
    Love the last pair.

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  35. AnonymousJuly 24, 2009

    i can see that your "friend" in the last pic is wonderful!

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  36. What a fabulous analogy! I'm never going to look at my shoes the same way again, and thats a good thing :)

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  37. I can totally agree with this analogy. Shoes and Friends definitely have a parallel.

    And I LOVE the shoe pics! I want them all!

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  38. lovely post! and great shoes, some shoes I only wear a few times then I chuck them out but others I'd wear them until they look too raggidy but I still wear them cuz they're so comfy!

    Yeah they're really trying to milk as much out of Demi Lovato it seems! Sighhh... Have a great weekend! ;)

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  39. AnonymousJuly 24, 2009

    And sometimes just like friends, you can only find one shoe at a time; sometimes you're missing one. Then you feel complete when the two are back together.

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  40. Ha love this post - so so so true! xxxx

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  41. This is sooo true! I tend to be very loyal so it's hard for me to let go once I get attached...of shoes or friends!
    Here's wishing you only the best friends and shoes the world has to offer you :)
    Have a lovely weekend! xx

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  42. I love that....so true:)

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  43. I love this post! I can totally relate. I never thought about friends as shoes , but it makes sense. My favorite friend in high school doesn't even care to talk to my face, just about me behind my back....shallow! guess those shoes weren't worth the 'price' ,right?

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  44. Wow, well written! Everything is true:D Plus the shoes are nice haha ;)

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