Oct 23, 2009

Hiding Under Your Mask?


Happy Friday Ocean Dreamers!

My blessed Friday post is going to be postponed...I feel like writing my deep thoughts today.

Often I find myself writing about fears and a lot of my posts echo these thoughts. I think I like writing about my fears because it allows me to cope with them and strive to overcome them. I don't mind being honest about my fears because I secretly hope that it helps you feel like you are not alone. We all have fears and we all are trying to overcome them on a daily basis.

Lately with Halloween I have been thinking a lot about masks. I have always been fascinated with masquerades and masks in general, but with Halloween approaching it makes me fascinated with them all the more. Here are some actual pictures of me in masks from past renaissance festivals.




I love masks and all that they represent...but they are more than just being pretty...

I think I literally sometimes find myself hiding behind a mask.

Other times I find my mask to be quite ugly. I may reveal my mask to only people who can take it or I feel won't abandon me. I take out a bad day on my boyfriend or call my mom in tears instead of going to the person who has truly caused my pain. My mask is thick and will not be taken off. But...I find if I hide behind my mask I can become quite ugly on the inside, which transforms into ugliness on the outside as well. I begin to hold grudges and becoming cynical. This is the person I never want to become.


Instead I would rather be free....free of pain....free of hurt....free of rejection

Free of shutting myself off to the rest of the world, hiding in a cage, and not revealing who I really am to others. I want to hurt alone. I want to be alone. I don't need anyone.

But then I open my eyes...I am not alone. I am loved. I know grace. I am capable of forgiving and confronting the person who hurt me. The truth will set me free. I take off my mask slowly and I slowly reveal myself to others.


What will you do today that will set you a part from others? Will you simply hide away or strive the be the best person you are meant to be? Will you allow the pain you are hiding to keep on festering, or will you strive to find a way to face the issue head on and begin a process of healing? After all Ocean Dreamers, you deserve to be set free.

Don't hide under your mask any longer...

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XOXO,

*all images are from weheartit.com!

34 comments :

  1. Great post! I think we're all guilty of hiding in one way or another. its comforting to know that you are in control of you, to an extent. And that someone can't have ALL of you. It took me years to realize its okay to give all of yourself.

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  2. this is such a cool thought considering we are so close to halloween. I have often thought of these same things... and also what things in our life we use to mask ourselves. We all hide behind certain things... kind of like secrets. I love your thinking... and those pictures of you in the masks are so cool!

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  3. Lovely post Ocean Dreamer!

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  4. Beautiful post and so, so true. I think we all hide to a certain extent, under a mask or different masks. I think it's a lack of confidence...I am guilty of donning a mask occasionally. Sigh.

    I love the photos!

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  5. Love this! What a perfect way to enter my weekend - thank you!

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  6. This is such a wonderful post, hon. It's so true that we sometimes hide behind our masks whenever we don't want to reveal all of ourselves to certain people. I think it's safe and understandable to have our guards up but you're right, we need to set ourselves free, face what we need to.

    I hope you have a lovely weekend, I've missed you! xx

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  7. What a wonderful post. I think at some point or another everyone uses different masks because at every occasion you have to be someone different if that makes sense. You can't necessarily be the same person you are at work at home and vice versa. I understand about taking things out on loved ones...that's always hard NOT to do!

    Happy weekend doll!

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  8. This post was beautiful, my friend. Thank you for opening up your heart and sharing that with us. It spoke volumes to me about my own self. I am known to bottle up and suppress my feelings, hurts and fears and it really does effect who I am from the inside out. This was enlightening, descriptive and so beautiful. I just love your heart. So happy we're blog friends. You possess a precious heart and soul. Never change. xo

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  9. What a great post this was. I'm sure we are all guilty of it now and then. Have a blessed weekend!

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  10. I find that I will always try to figure out how to avoid confrontation with someone, which in a sense can seem like a good thing, but usually leads to keeping feelings/issues bottled up inside. I am happy to hear that you are able to realize that you are strong enough to remove your mask and be able to release bottled up feelings.

    I hope you have a good weekend too :o) Love the post!

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  11. beautiful post...I think that we all can relate!

    have a wonderful weekend!

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  12. Lovely! At some point we all hide. It's all in recognizing when we're doing it and trying to come into the light!

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  13. I love this post! I think everyone has already said what I wanted to say, but regardless, I still wanted to leave a message. Inspiring thoughts and lovely images; have a great weekend! :)

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  14. well that was a much deeper post than my masquerade one. lol. i'm literally going to be hiding this weekend behind a mask tonight. wish i could've found some like the ones you tried on.

    as for being open and not hiding, i think i'm very much that but there will always be things that i keep hidden that come out every once and a while. things that i don't like to confront.

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  15. I am so guilty of hiding behind a mask. I go throughout my day sometimes pretty scared of showing my face. I don't just mean the face. I tend to hide my true personality, fearing that I will be judged badly for it. I need to stop doing this so often. We all need to not be afraid to show our true colors. Great post...loved it!

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  16. I know exactly what you mean. You're such a sweetie that I know it must be hard for you to not feel hurt when others let you down. I've felt like that many times. I'm getting much better at being assertive with people who upset me, and I think that keeps me from being passive aggressive with them. You're such a lovely, kind-hearted girl! I wish you luck with this.

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  17. cute post.. I love the masks

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  18. AWESOME post....
    My favorite masquerade is the scene in Phantom of the Opera... it just catches my breath and whisks it away everytime...
    Hope you're having a nice weekend pretty lady!

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  19. Love the masks idea. It would be such a neat costume idea. Good blog!

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  20. I am definitely guilty of hiding.. but not so much with a mask, but a pair of sunglasses

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  21. ooohh this post is exactly me in the past and a little bit now. i think everybody hides under a mask in their life, whether it be in front on specific people or at a certain place. Happy weekend!

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  22. Lovely thoughtful post! What beautiful masks too (oh, that's a deep thought there too...) Thanks for sharing :)

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  23. You write so beautifully (and you have THE most gorgeous eyes too!).
    Sometimes I think it's a lot easier to hide behind a mask than to just admit that things are difficult or scary.
    I really, really enjoyed this post a LOT. I loved how it kind of links to Halloween (well, not kind of, it does), but goes so much farther than a superficial post on Halloween. Seriously, you're a wonderful writer =)

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  24. I tend to keep things inside and I know that they tend to grow and grow and if I would have just let them go...they would be gone.

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  25. Great post! I think everyone hides something to protect themselves and their feelings. The world can be quite unforgiving, so sometimes you have to make your own happiness and be your own best friend and confident :)

    However, breaking down those walls to the right person can be so exhilarating! Thanks for another wonderfully, though provoking post

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  26. Awesome post. I feel you. Also, I am very guilty of taking my frustrations out on people who have not caused them.

    On another note, those mask photos are beautiful.

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  27. Lovely post. I know sometimes I wear a mask as a kind of security blanket. I think we all hide a part of ourselves from the world. Very pretty pics!

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  28. Just another reason I heart you!

    I'm guilty of the mask thing too. I think most women are. I know that my reason for this is fear. Plain old fear that someone - whoever they are - won't truly accept me for me. I'm working on taking it off. The mask that is, haha!

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  29. "Instead I would rather be free....free of pain....free of hurt....free of rejection"

    i love this... and completely relate to this post.

    xoxo

    ps thank you for visiting my bloga nad for your sweet comments.

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  30. what a beautiful post, you write so well. I can definitely relate. I love the mystery and mystique around masks, particularly ones that do not completely cover the face but only in the phyiscal form, not metaphorically as you discuss.

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  31. You have a very charming personality keep up the good work on your blog! I am excited to see how mine turns out too thank you!

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  32. Great post, I love it. The pictures are beautiful too.

    I went through some very tough times personally in '06 and at the end of it all, broke my mask. I learned wonderful lessons about just being who you are, as long as you are happy with yourself. :)

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  33. Hello darling, I have missed you so much!!! I thank you from the bottom of my heart for your kind words and prayers. I am one lucky girl to have you as a friend; you truly are the gem in my teacup. I am now off to stroll around your blog to see what I have missed.

    I truly missed you luv
    Love & Hugs
    Duchess

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  34. I need to start reading all of your older posts and catch up! I would say masks are a huge part of my personality, which is something I'm trying to change...I think my favorite of your 4 masks is the first one :)

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