Jun 2, 2011

guest post by Abby - thoughts on change

Hey guys! I'm Abby from A Picture A Day and I'm so happy to be a guest blog on Ocean Dreams! I figured I would write about something we all can relate to: dealing with change. Right now I am about to experience a huge change. In less than 3 months I will be moving 8 hours away and starting law school. I'll be leaving behind my family, boyfriend, and friends. To say I'm scared would be an understatement. But as nervous as I am about the unknown, I'm excited to take this next step in my life. I've been thinking of ways to prepare for this big change and figured it would be nice to share my thoughts in hopes that others could benefit.

When contemplating my upcoming move, I thought about how I've dealt with change in the past. Some changes were welcomed, others were unexpected, and a few just happened organically.
How I look when contemplating change

The first huge unexpected change I experienced in my (somewhat) adult life occured about a week before my highschool graduation. My highschool sweetheart dumped me and all my expectations of us staying together through college and beyond went out the window. I was devestated for a few weeks and had no idea how I'd adjust to a life without my bf. This may seem like such a superficial thing, but trust me, to my 18 year old self, this was the end of the life I had known. The transition to college was not easy, but I ended up embracing the study abroad opportunities that were offered. I studied in Versailles, France my sophomore year for three months, and went to India my senior year for two months. If I had stayed with my highschool bf, I know I never would have wanted to be away for such long periods of time. From this experience I learned that sometimes unwanted change can actually be a good thing, even if it doesn't seem that way at the time. I grew so much as a person during my time abroad and today I can't imagine who I would be without those experiences.
My graduation pic taken a few days after the break up. I don't look too upset right?! ;)

A big change that was unexpected and happened organically was to take a gap year between college and law school. By the last week of college, I had accepted UVA Law and already had roommates picked with whom I was about to sign a lease on an apartment. Meanwhile I had also been trying to negotiate a scholarship to the law school. On the last day of exams I got a call saying they could only offer me a (fairly substantial) scholarship if I deferred my acceptance for a year because they had already doled out all the scholarship money for the upcoming year. Well, I had no idea what to do. I was on a very specific path and suddenly a whole new path appeared before my eyes. I didn't want to back out on my future roommates and I was scared of what a year without school would look like. After some reflection and a lot of conversations with family and friends, I decided to defer. After I made the decision, I felt really good about it. And honestly, this has been the best year of my life. It was a huge deviation from my original plan, and I've learned that sometimes plans can change in the best way possible.
Playing with my dog, Charlie, and enjoying my gap year!

And now the time of change is almost upon me. I'll soon be moving and then studying more than ever after a year away from academic life. After drawing on past experiences concerning change I've come up with a few "rules of change" that are helpful to me.

1. Change will come whether you want it or not in one form or another.


2. Because change is inevitable, embrace it (as much as possible).


3. Handling change is all about attitude. Look for the positives and recognize that although it may be hard at times, it will utlimately make you a better person in the end.

I hope these "rules" can help others! Thanks for reading my thoughts on change and stop by A Picture A Day anytime for pretty photos, random musings, and funny anecdotes about my many pets!

9 comments :

  1. Definitely an awesome realization about change... love this post!

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  2. I adore this post! When I was younger I was absolutely HORRIBLE with change..then life threw me some REALLY BIG changes and I had to cope. Over time, I've learned to embrace it and realize it's what makes us who we are!

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  3. Goodluck with the big move, thats a big distance but i am sure you will have the time of your life. Ive just moved but only to the other side of town in with my partner. a change is as good as a rest as they say. Wishing you the best with your new begining

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  4. Thanks for letting me guest post Sierra!

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  5. I know it sounds corny, but I truly believe life sends us curveballs like these for a reason, and in the end, we become a more well-rounded person. :)

    My life has seen some hijinks in the past year, so I really need to believe that sentiment, haha. In the past year, I was laid off from my dream job (newspaper reporter), lost two friends and my grandmother, and have been struggling to find a new job. It's tough!

    I think going away to law school sounds exciting! It's a very important chapter of your life which you will never forget.

    Oh, and I do agree that breakups are not something to be taken lightly. When my college sweetheart broke up with me (I thought we were going to get married!) it changed my life. For the first time, I started making decisions for ME and not for us. And I think that is a big part of growing up, don't you? ;)

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  6. Good advice! Thank you for sharing your personal experiences with change... that wasn't always good or easy at the beginning.

    Good luck with law school!

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  7. great post i was glued to her experiences from change. it's definitely an eye opener.. makes you think :) i love reading posts like this.

    changes are not easy and i'm still going through my transition of being a single mom.. change is definitely hard, but well worth it if you persevere to make things better for yourself.

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  9. Love this guest post! And I'm so excited for Abby going law school. It will be a wonderful change. Different, but sometimes exactly these changes are necessary.\

    And yes, change will come whether or not we want it.

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